Have you ever had a huge pimple on your face that was impossible to cover up? You didn’t want people to judge you so when you talked to them you had to say something like “just ignore my pimple, I’m not usually like this.” We think that if we talk about it then no one will judge us, but does it really matter? I’ve come to found out that it doesn’t. The sad thing is we don’t just do that if we have facial blemishes. We do it with our personality traits that we believe our flawed.
Lately, I’ve been finding myself trying to please everyone, and make everyone like me. I would walk around acting like my personality was a big pimple. It was like I had an imaginary billboard over my head that read “Hi my name is Anna McFarland I am flaky, disorganized, over trusting, loud,and overbearing” I thought that by letting everyone know about my flaws then they wouldn’t judge me, and that everyone would like me. Not only did that not work, but by focusing on all my disliked traits I started to dislike myself. I knew I needed to dig myself out of this hole. I had to realize that not everyone is going to like me, and that’s okay. The people who I need in my life will like me, for me. I don’t want someone to like me for something I’m not. Second, I had to stop focusing on the traits I disliked about myself. Which is sad cause I love myself! Instead of dwelling on my faults I to decided to improve on the areas that I needed to work on. Nobody is perfect! The third thing is look at your good traits. My friend helped me do this. Caitlyn demanded to me that I would name five things that I loved about myself, and I did! It really worked. Then she had to help me with my vanity. haha One thing I realized from this experience is people will be drawn to your light, and your confidence! That is true beauty. So let your light shine, and believe in yourself! Once I did that I was happier! I gained true friends; who love me for me.