When you think of the word feminine what do you think of?
What about feminist?
I asked myself this and this what popped into my head:
Before I continue I am going to clarify a few things. Yes, I am a woman. Yes, I love and respect that. Now that I have that out of the way I will proceed haha. When I was thinking about the word feminine and feminist I was very stumped. It is very clear and outright the word “feminist” is a derivative of “feminine”. Yet the stereotype for the two words are polar opposites. At least for me. This has been on my mind for quite sometime so either my perspective is wrong or the world’s perspective is tainted. Right here, right now I am going to change the perspective!
I am going to show you why feminism is necessary and essential. In the merriam webster dictionary it defines feminism as ” the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities”.
Furthermore, I firmly believe that men and women are created equal BUT that doesn’t mean that I believe that men have wronged me so I am going to prove to them that I can do their job better than they can.
As a woman I believe that I have been given divine rights and power that are personal, sacred, and quintessential. Feminism does not mean that we try to be like a man and say we have the right to it, but it means that we value what we have been given. As a women I look right and left and see that my femininity is no longer being valued. As women let us band together, take our talents and magnify them.
Today women’s rights means being able to have abortions, free birth control and contraceptives.
When I see that I see women not being held accountable for the very gifts of womenhood. Women cannot be replaced. We are valued, but that value begins within ourselves. So if we think that the only way to being important or to receive recognition is by proving to the world that we are better than a man than we have forgotten that we were already important before that.
Being a women doesn’t mean that you don’t have power, but it means that you are aware that it is inside you.
This all really hit me because I was at college and I was working really hard, I was getting good grades, but I started to be hard on myself. I wanted so desperately to make something out of myself so I started pushing myself for the wrong reasons. I was so incredibly busy trying to prove to everyone that I had worth that I forgot about my divine potential. I got so busy trying to look, be and act a certain way I ran myself into the ground almost literally. I ended up in the hospital and that was a real wake up call for me. Could I live the rest of my life like this? No, trying to prove to everyone that I was credible was making me sick. Ironically, when I discovered that I was born with worth I started getting better.
As women there is no need to try and be like men because we already have a big enough job. Let us be women! The world may be trying to take away compassion, sensitivity, true love, emotion, sensibility, and femininity, but that does not mean we have to freely give those gifts away.